This message is especially for those who are not married now and have come to the point in their lives where they have to make a decision: should they marry a non-believer or wait on the Lord for a Christian partner.
Dear sisters and brothers in Christ: Nabaad korkiina ha ahaato (peace be with you). I am greeting you with the peace and love that we find nowhere else, but in Jesus alone. I am hoping that you are all doing well, and at peace with God.
Believe it or not, it took me many days to write down this letter…you see I have many things on my mind, and in my heart. Especially when it comes to this topic: “living alone or living alone with someone?!”
You see, I myself have been struggling with this situation and had to make a choice, a decision: should I live alone, until the one God wants me to share my life with shows up? Or should I live with someone who claims to “love me” yet does not share the same faith and belief as I do? The fact is that when you are a Somali Christian (or generally a Christian) and are living with someone who does not believe in Christ, you are living aloneeven though you are with someone.
This is not a fact that I learned from others. It is what I have witnessed and experienced happen to many Somali Christian believers, my friends, a family member, and myself.
I had been “dating” (or shukansi as we in Somali) Somali guys. But you have to understand that none of them were Christians. That led me into relationships where the arguments about my faith and beliefs were bigger than the caring, humbleness and love the relationships promised at first. I learned at last that all those guys that had approached or shown interest in me changed after finding out that I am a believer and follower of Jesus Christ. They only had one goal and that was to convert me back to Islam – no matter what the cost. Of course, little did they know, that this girl right here, has gone through the fire with Jesus, and even if my head is no longer with my body I will still praise God with my spirit! Pslam 104: 33: I will sing to the Lord as long as I live. I will praise my God to my last breath!
I know some of you found Christ while you were married to a Muslim woman or man. Which makes you a person who is now living alone with someone. You may have experienced that your beloved starts calling you names, treating you wrong, being mean and all of the sudden a stranger. When in fact you have been living with that person for many years and maybe even you have children together. The important thing to remember here is that your beloved is still the same person that you married! The one you shared joy with, laughter and tears with. She/he is not the one giving you a hard time for following Christ. Walalayaal it is the spirit in her/him that cannot stand you!
Think about it for a while and remember that in every living person, if he/she does not have the spirit of God inside them, then he/she definitely has another spirit inside them! And these spirits recognize the spirit of God when they see it and no, they do not like it!
Mark 1:23-24 “Just then a man in their synagogue who was possessed by an evil spirit cried out, “What do you want with us, Jesus of Nazareth? Have you come to destroy us? I know who you are – the Holy One of God!”
I have now decided that I will wait on the Lord and not marry a non-Christian. I have seen how sisters and brothers are living with their partners who are non-Christians, and they tell me that they feel lonely in their relationships.
If I cannot praise God out loud, jump and dance for my King – in my own house – in peace, but have to argue with my future partner about it every time, then I would rather say “No thank you” and keep staying unmarried. Trust me, this is not easy, I know, I am still a young woman. And yes, I am not ashamed to say, most of us need someone to share our lives with, and dream about building a family with, and if God blesses us with kids and we teach them to glorify God as long as we live – Praise God. But those dreams are made to be shared with a person who is willing to do the same! Live and die for Christ alone: who loves Christ more than anything and anyone. Only then is it for sure that I will be living with a person, not living alone with them.
The bad spirit cannot stand Christ because it knows that wherever Christ enters the devil has to flee. So if you are already married and your partner is not a Christian, be patient and pray for your beloved one. God is faithful He will save her/him as He has saved you! But if you are not married, please for your own sake do not enter a marriage where your God is not the center of that marriage!
Wait on the Lord, He will bless you, and if you have children that you are raising alone, He will raise them up with you!
Beloved ones, wait on the Lord for He, yes only He has the best plan for our lives. And pray that His will be done in your life. Trust Him for his will is the only good one. Jeremiah 29:11. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Ameen.
God is telling us that all we need to do is lay our life in his hands and yes He will take care of us and reveal his plan for our lives in his perfect time.
At last, I would love to share this wonderful song of worship, go to Youtube.com and write “in his time” and listen to that song.
Here are the lyrics:
IN HIS TIME, IN HIS TIME
HE MAKES ALL THINGS BEAUTIFUL IN HIS TIME
LORD, PLEASE SHOW ME EVERYDAY
AS YOU’RE TEACHING ME YOUR WAY
AND I’LL DO JUST WHAT YOU SAY
IN YOUR TIME.
IN YOUR TIME, IN YOUR TIME
YOU MAKE ALL THINGS BEAUTIFUL IN YOUR TIME
LORD, MY LIFE TO YOU I BRING
MAY EACH SONG I HAVE TO SING
BE TO YOU A LOVELY THING
IN YOUR TIME
BE TO YOU A LOVELY THING
IN YOUR TIME.
Yes indeed God makes everything beautiful in His time. May God bless you and keep you safe. I leave you with the blessing of the never failing, never ending love of our living God. Hold on tight to Him through it all! For He is worth it!
lots of love
your Somali Christian sister