A man is bound to remain faithful to his wife for his entire life. One wife for life. He must love her, care for her, be kind and gentle to her, and remain faithful to her for his entire life. It is his duty as a Christian to stay married to her, unless she is sexually unfaithful to him. Then he is permitted to divorce her. A Christian man is not permitted to divorce his wife. They are to stay married until one of them dies.

God hates divorce

We read in the Bible that God does not want men and women to get a divorce. God wants men and women to remain married for their entire lives. He does not like divorce, in fact, God hates divorce.

We read in the Bible: “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the LORD Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.” (Malachi 2:16).

Men should not commit adultery in their hearts

The Bible teaches us that men should not commit adultery in their hearts. Jesus talks about this and teaches us: “You have heard the commandment that says, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:27-28).

Adultery is not only if a man physically has sex with a woman. Jesus said that it is possible for a man to commit adultery with a woman in his heart if he looks at her and lusts after her.

Marriage is holy

Getting married is a holy act. Marriage is a relationship that God has created. A man and a woman joining together in marriage is a sacred and holy union. It is a union that God has created. God said for a man to marry one woman, have children, and to raise them as Christians. This is to be the guiding force in marriage.

Marriage is holy. God said: “Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.” (Hebrews 13:4).

Men cannot hate their wives

A man must love his wife according to God and according to the Bible. It is not enough for a man to simply work for a living and provide for the financial needs of his family and think that he is doing the will of God. No, that is not enough.

A man cannot leave his wife and go and live in another country for the rest of his life and simply send her money and say that he is being a good father or a good husband. The Bible teaches us: “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” (Ephesians 5:31).

The Bible does not teach that a man should leave his wife, and go to a different country, and send money back to his family and never have to see them again. This is like getting a divorce. A man should not hate his wife and his family and go to another country to make money and make that an excuse why he cannot go and be with his wife and with his family.

God said that He would provide

God said that He would provide. If a man and his family are struggling financially, then they should pray together as a family and ask God to help them. God will provide for their financial and other needs. God cares about all of us and will provide for us. It is not proper for a man to leave his wife and family, and go and make money, and never provide the spiritual leadership that his wife and family deserve.

A husband and a father is the spiritual leader in the family. A man has to be present and with his family as much as possible to provide the spiritual leadership to his children and to his wife. A father and a husband should lead his family in the worship and obedience to God and to Jesus Christ.

If a man divorces his wife he is damaging the church

The Bible teaches us that: “The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ.” (1 Corinthians 12:12).

The church is known as the body of Christ. Everyone who is a believer in Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour is a part of the body of Christ.

If a man decides to divorce his wife, except if she is unfaithful to him, then the man is damaging the church. The man who divorces his wife is causing harm to the body of Christ because the man is destroying what God has created. God has created that family. It was God who brought the man and woman together in marriage. It was God who brought the man and the woman together in marriage. And it is God who expects the man and the woman to keep that marriage together, because marriage is a holy bond between a man and a woman, and no human being has the right or the authority to destroy that sacred bond.

The two, the husband and the wife, shall become one

The Bible teaches us that a husband and a wife “are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one,” (Mark 10:8).

If a husband or a wife decides to divorce then they are breaking something that does not deserve to be broken. God created the marriage as one unit. When a man and a woman get married, the husband and wife no longer exist as two people, they become one in mind and in body. They are joined together for life. So, do all that you can to remain faithful to your spouse. God hates divorce. Do not divorce.

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